It has been a long and rather unexpected time since I last wrote.
Every month at least one and often multiple things have come along and completely changed the direction I thought I was going in. Sometimes these things totally blindsided me. The picture is from Tuesday night when we came home to find the lot behind us having major work done. The wood is one of several boards to our fence, a section of it blown apart by a badly placed tree topping maneuver. The rose is my favorite of the five bushes we planted for our 5th anniversary 9 years ago, crushed on our driveway. I thought it was a goner. Turns out that underneath all the rest of the tree carnage it wasn’t uprooted or broken and bounced right back to life!
How often have we experienced the same?
This draft post was an email our middle school principal sent a while ago and it feels timely to share it now. What are your hopes for your colleagues and goals for yourself as we move forward in our lives regardless of what may fall on (or pivot) it? Who do you need to spend some intentional time with? How can we support each other in positive growth instead of ‘Did you get this, that, and the other thing done? Ok tell me about… oh wait, time to go to that committee meeting…’ ?
I first differentiate between a hope and a goal. A hope is something we wish for someone else, while a goal is something that needs to be owned by an individual. I share the story of my mom once telling me her goal was that I would clean my room every week. In all of my teenage wisdom, I responded that she would probably never reach that goal and would be disappointed for a long time. So rather than goals, let’s talk about hopes for our students and I’d like to invite you to consider the following questions:
• What are 2 hopes you have for your student during their middle school experience?
• What are 2 hopes you have for your student at the end of their K-12 education?
• What are your student’s 3 greatest strengths?
I invite you this week to spend some intentional time with your student. Share with them your hopes for them and what you believe to be their greatest strengths. Too often we spend time focusing on the tasks at hand – homework, sports practices, music lessons – and don’t pause to also share how we see them growing, maturing and becoming strong and amazing young men and women. Students may be uncomfortable or try and dismiss what you say (they are in middle school after all), but they will hear it and it will make an impact.