November 23rd, 2011

In remembrance year 4: Know the signs, engage with grace, and happy Thanksgiving

Dorothy Irene
4/26/24 – 11/24/98

(yours truly in the 1970s culturally inappropriate Indian attire, with a wink and a smile to David Hale)

Heart Attack Signs for Women

This is my yearly post to increase awareness of the signs of a heart attack which is still the #1 killer for women. Although much progress has been made since I was making funeral arrangements for instead of getting ready to celebrate with my grandma the Tuesday before Thanksgiving 13 years ago (the original post and story), I know more can be done.

Please make sure your family and friends know these important signs of a heart attack and to not disregard them as indigestion, pneumonia, or to make a doctor appointment for later in the day when it’s more convenient. It was too late for my Grandma by the time she saw her doctor – she died within hours despite every effort made to save her. (Source of signs from Go Red for Women)

  1. Uncomfortable pressure, squeezing, fullness or pain in the center of your chest. It lasts more than a few minutes, or goes away and comes back.
  2. Pain or discomfort in one or both arms, the back, neck, jaw or stomach.
  3. Shortness of breath with or without chest discomfort.
  4. Other signs such as breaking out in a cold sweat, nausea or lightheadedness.
  5. As with men, women’s most common heart attack symptom is chest pain or discomfort. But women are somewhat more likely than men to experience some of the other common symptoms, particularly shortness of breath, nausea/vomiting and back or jaw pain.

If you have any of these signs, don’t wait longer than five minutes before calling 9-1-1 for help.

Think only older women have heart attacks? Think again.


 Engage With Grace

I was the executrix of my Grandma’s estate at the ripe old age of 25 including making her final arrangements. If anything can accelerate aging roughly one decade in the span of one month, that experience can. I’m a bit put out that I didn’t even receive funeral home swag during the ordeal. Ok, I’m not, but please read Regina Holliday’s account about Engage With Grace. You have no idea how quickly life can turn itself upside down where you have to make decisions about health care on behalf of your family members who are suddenly unable to do so for themselves. Start the conversation now. Please.

I both know the answers to everything & where all the paperwork is for my mom and we review them every Thanksgiving while remembering that one from 13 years ago. I both appreciate and dread the process, and my husband & I have had everything regarding both advance directives and the rest of our stuff in order for years.

Happy Thanksgiving

Now for something completely unexpected, this is the first Thanksgiving our son & I are aware of the fact that we are Mayflower descendants. My Grandma and my second Grandpa (first Grandpa had the Mayflower lineage) made this stained glass panel and our son asked if it was the Mayflower – I replied that it wasn’t but he was welcome to think of it that way if he wanted to.

You can see the typical idyllic Pilgrim children window clings. Our ancestor Richard Moore was a young child then too but probably wasn’t smiling. A lot about him was very hard even for professional researchers to figure out for centuries, but what is known is that his life is “bizarre and interesting

  1. He, his brother and 2 sisters were likely the results of a longstanding affair their mom (of royal descent) was having at the time
  2. Mom didn’t particularly want them, so her husband arranged for them to be shipped off with some “honest and religious people” for a new life as he divorced her
  3. His brother and 2 sisters died during the first winter at Plymouth
  4. All of this happened by the time he was 7 years old
  5. Thanks to Elder Brewster and his family for helping him survive to be an adult

As an adult he lived to be old enough to witness the Salem witch trials, is the only Mayflower passenger with an original gravestone, and the only survivor proven to have royal lineage. Add in that he was apparently a lech, probably a bigamist, and excommunicated from the church for a while and it looks like he has very strong reality show potential even all these centuries later.

I’m still processing all this information and know that we can’t choose where we’re from, but believe it’s important to try to have both awareness and understanding of what our past includes. Many thanks to Martha for pointing out American Indian Perspectives on Thanksgiving that I’ll combine with Coming to America (the Mayflower Society’s perspective) in due time along with the ‘bizarre and interesting’ details.

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One Response to “In remembrance year 4: Know the signs, engage with grace, and happy Thanksgiving”

  1. Cone says:

    Thanks for the great reminders, Nikki!
    Love and Hugs, Carolyn

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